When I was first diagnosed, I heard a lot of stories how people with other medical conditions just stopped putting up with the crap. If someone was being an ass, instead of dealing with it… they might just say stop being an ass. Cut the the chase. This has never been an issue for me. I lack tact most people have mostly because I think its funny to be straight to the point instead of walking 5 miles around the point. This does get me in trouble sometimes. A small portion of the population (ok maybe more than small) doesn’t appreciate this but I figure they aren’t for me anyway.
I have been waiting for my ah-uh moment which MS has given me and I have finally found it. I use to have compassion and now I have a lot less. Here are a few examples:
I have a lazy ass coworker that doesn’t do anything. I noticed he didn’t come to work for a whole week while my boss was out. This is normal for him to skip out but boss man said he was not doing that anymore. He came back the next week and was applying for jobs at work. I decided to ask my boss whats up with that. He said that my coworker was out the week because he was “bleeding out of a hole you shouldn’t bleed out of” and that he needed emergency surgery. He then dropped the whole “Of all people that should understand this, it’s you!”
At first I was like, yeah medical problems suck. I totally get that but after a while I was completely and utterly offended. I didn’t miss a single day of work after going blind in one eye. I didn’t miss a single day from the IV Steroids. I haven’t miss a single day of work due to MS. So no asshole, I don’t “get it”. I also don’t get how you could have an emergency surgery and a week later be applying for jobs at work.
Another example occurred this week after someone used their behavior problems on being on vicodin. When I suggested that might not be the best excuse for her behavior, she dropped the “of all people that should understand, it’s you!” line. Well, first off…. I can’t take any narcotics with getting really freaking sick from them and second, no i don’t get it. I don’t use MS as an excuse for my shitty behavior (although that might be nice 
).
Oh well, I will add this to my list of personal improvements. More tact and compassion.
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1 Lisa Emrich // Nov 16, 2008 at 6:25 pm
Hi Nina,
Isn’t it considered bad form to be applying for others jobs while at your current place of business?
I am so sick of the bullies and offensive ones on PLM. I’m sure that you saw the many other “hugs” passed between Chercoats and Jacca. Disgraceful.
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ninareply on November 16th, 2008 10:49 pm
Yeah, I thought it was in really bad form but oh well. People get judged at difference standards.
I am indeed tired of their “i am innocent” act. They are a horrible high school clique that all nerds hated.
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